- A soul mate is really just a loving partner who’s willing to work with you.
To say that one waits a lifetime for their soul mate to come around is a bit of a paradox. People eventually get tired of waiting, so they take a chance on someone, and by the powers of love and commitment they become soul mates, which takes a lifetime to perfect.
- True love is often the most inconvenient kind.
Again, it takes two people who truly, TRULY want to work together, every day, compromises and all, to build something special. That’s what great relationships are all about – daily teamwork.
- There will be lots of little issues.
When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever ties rather than to maintain commitment, but the extent to which two people in a relationship can bring up and resolve issues is a significant sign of the soundness of their relationship.
- There will be lots of tough conversations.
The right words won’t always come easy, but when you don’t talk it out there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said. Every great couple needs to argue (consciously and mindfully) now and then, just to prove that the relationship is strong enough to survive. Long-term relationships – the ones that truly matter – are all about weathering the peaks and the valleys.
- Conscious, mindful communication is necessary, but takes practice.
You can measure the happiness of an intimate relationship by the number of scars that each partner carries on their tongues, earned from years of biting back angry, unhelpful words.
- There will be more honest misunderstandings than you’d like.
When it comes to understanding your partner, deal with them as they are, not how you’d like them to be. (Read The 5 Love Languages.)
- There will be lots of apologies and necessary forgiveness.
Love is living your own life, but sharing it. It’s forgiveness. It’s making a million little mistakes with each other and turning them into learning experiences. Love is patience, optimism, and sometimes it’s a simple kiss when there’s nothing left to say.
- Partners can’t force changes in each other.
People can only change themselves. Instead of trying to change your partner, give them your support and lead by example. If there’s a specific behaviour they have that you’re hoping fades over time, it probably won’t. If you really need them to change something specific, be honest and put all the cards on the table so your partner knows how you feel and why. But keep in mind that the best way to love someone is not to change them, but instead to help them reveal the greatest version of themselves.
- A great relationship isn’t needy.
In a great relationship, you love each other more than you need each other.
- Even the greatest relationship won’t completely fix YOU.
If you’re not happy with yourself, or comfortable with your own truth when entering a relationship, there’s a good chance you’re not ready for that relationship. Work on loving yourself first
- Some people won’t support your relationship, no matter how great it is.
Great relationships don’t always make sense, especially from the outside.
- No relationship lasts forever.
People don’t live forever. Appreciate what you have with your partner – the loving moments and all the little things. You’ll never know how much they mean to you until the day they are no longer beside you. And remember, just because something doesn’t last forever, doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth your while.
Thank you – The Open Mind