Silence is a fence around wisdom. ~German Proverb
The silent man is the best to listen to. ~Japanese Proverb
Silence is medication for sorrow. ~Arab Proverb
To silence another, first be silent yourself. ~Latin Proverb
Silence was never written down. ~Italian Proverb
Silence with an exclamation is not good, it is;
- Be silent! Creates frustration
- Demand silence! Is egotistical
- Angry silence! Passive aggression
No, silence as in more like a gentle “Shhhhhhh”.
There is no equivalent for attaining a deep connection with your soul by honouring a period of complete silence or getting lost in a mundane/repetitive action during your daily program and in total focussed awareness.
I attended a four day retreat a while ago with 140 other attendees and for approximately 60 hours we were required to be quiet.
During this time I realised:
- How unnecessarily we talk during the day – it is no wonder people stop listening to our senseless babble.
- The remarks I could not make during the day became pointless – nothing changed whether I uttered them or not.
- When I did not share a thought, I had the opportunity of considering it from different angles. More often than not I realised how nebulous my initial thought processes were.
- Most of the time when I did not agree or like what I saw, I walked away. It saved me and others from my egoistic self.
- How much extra ‘time’ not talking afforded me during the day and how much extra mental observation the silence gave me.
On a deeper level I realised:
- How deep my observations became as time passed. I wasn’t preoccupied with my response but I became present in the situation noticing things that hearing obscured.
- Peace, not previously experienced in such abundance overcame me.
- Calmness is part of being and not of doing (talking).
- My driven nature of ‘want’ calmed down; considering and contemplating just what I needed in comparison to what I wanted.
- Self-sufficiency is a virtue and burdening others with my thoughts a vice.
- How profoundly the practise of silence can influence my attitude, emotions, outlook and the connectedness I felt with others.
Being quiet and not communicating is two different things. During the 60 hours we constantly communicated silently by observation. I could interpret the meaning of a smile or frown or hand gesture any which way I chose. Body language became vital to understand a situation. In body language I found truth. A truth so often hidden behind a veneer of pretence, of hiding actually feelings and of being polite.
So many of the participants experienced deep seated emotions they usually hid behind superficial happy attitudes or the many masks we wear on a day to day basis. Empathy was easy because you were present, attending to a person’s need for comfort by being there and not uttering all those mindless cliché’s. Sympathy vanished and empathy blossomed because nothing unnecessary was said. Pure, common communion (in silence) had such a gentle effect on all concerned.
We laughed a lot; not because we laughed at each other but because laughter became a natural form of communication. Looking back negative forms of communication was rare or non-existing during the 60 hours of silence; there was no reason for anybody to hit out, became irritated or angry, judge and the ever growing ego was tempered considerably. If a communication was not understood most people pulled up their shoulders and let it go.
Letting go: what a powerful thought. Practicing ‘letting go’ in this positive atmosphere. Nothing happened when we just let-go of the stuff we did not understand. Most of the time we realised that our input was not as crucial as we thought. The situation was what it was.
In the attitude of silence the soul finds the path in a clearer light, and what is elusive and deceptive resolves itself into crystal clearness. ~Mahatma Gandhi